Posted on 10:37 AM on 11/2/2009
First-dates can bring on a variety of emotions. The exciting feeling you get when everything is still new. The uncertainty of just how good [or bad] the night will turn out. Yes, first dates are a special time for all. So, how do you beat the jitters and keep your nerves from sabotaging the date? Here's a few tips that I came across that can keep your confidence high as you go forward on your newest dating adventure.
Confidence is key. Instead of questioning "Will he [or she] like me?", think about why the date is happening in the first place. Clearly the person is interested in getting to know you, which is the most important part. You've already gotten past the most important part, so focus on enjoying the date. Confidence is sexy for a reason, it's like a walking billboard that says "I like me and you should too!"
When in doubt, use a lifeline. If you can't shake the nerves and you're still doubting yourself, call a friend. The great thing about friends is that, for better or worse, they can often see the sides of yourself that you can't. In this instance, you'll need to rely on the "for better". Let them pump your head up and keep you calm. You may not believe the hype, but it will at least make you feel better.
Icebreakers are timeless for a reason; they work. If you're funny and you know it, tell a story that's gotten you a few chuckles in the past. If you're not funny and you know it, don't force it. You can be interesting without getting any laughs. Just go for what works. The most important thing is that you do your best to limit the awkward silence. The first date is the perfect time to learn and the more you converse, the more you two learn about each other.
Look your best. This one may seem like a no-brainer, because it is. If you feel confident in how you look, it will make everything that much easier. Wear clothes, either new or old, that make you feel good.
All the tips in the world won't make the date perfect if you two aren't compatible, but you'll never know unless you give it your best effort. Have fun, keep confident and pursue the date with a positive attitude.
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